I’ve been reading a book by Bill Hybels, called, ‘Simplify’. One chapter is about your schedule (or diary). There is a quote which I have really taken to heart:
This means that we put in our diary not what is coming at us, but the appointments, meetings and events that will help us become who we want to be in the future.
With that in mind, I have created twelve ‘Becoming Tiles’, which are in order of importance, to help guide me in my decisions and what I allow in my diary:
This means, put my physical and mental health before anything else. If I go down with mental or physical illness, then the whole family goes down, my work and ministry is affected and I can’t care for anyone.
These things need to go in my diary:
- Doing mindfulness every day
- Taking time out for myself
- Having boundaries with friends, family and work
- Making time for God and Church
- Making time to be with friends and family
- Doing exercise
- Eating well
- Having days off and holidays
- Dealing with issues promptly and directly.
This means putting my husband, Mike and my son, Isaac, above all the other items on my list and in my diary.
These things will go in my diary:
- Spending family time together
- Supporting Mike in his ministry
- Taking Isaac places and showing him things that will help him grow
- Championing my family
- Spending enough time at home
- Date Night.
This means considering my character in my decisions, and also helping Isaac to grow in character. When he’s an adult I want him to be a catch, a good employee, friend and a polite chap.
Things like these will go in the diary:
- Regular time with wise friends and family
- Imput into my discipleship, such as Spring Harvest, training days and workshops
- Attending the ‘Mind and Soul’ conference
- Reading books and attending talks on parenting
- Seeing my Spiritual Director
I don’t want to be anyone else. I don’t want to water myself down for anyone. I want to be fully me.
This means putting things in my diary like:
- Being inspired by art, design and style
- Taking photos
- Being silly and joyful
- Going to Theme Parks
- Seeing plays
- Going to gigs
- Enjoying the seasons outside
- Going to water parks
- Singing Karaoke
- Trying new things
- Spending time on my hobbies, like gardening, calligraphy and nail art.
I might be a vicar one day…it might happen. I’ve lead what was really a church in Harrow, Get Together, with forty guests a week and enough laughs and problems to start a sitcom…I have several adult Godchildren, who asked me to be that guide in their life. I am a mentor in my work and also in my Church. I run my own business!
To keep going in this direction, these things need to go in my diary:
- Attending events at the City Hall to consult around diversity in the workplace
- Being a mentor professionally
- Offering my services as a voluntary Mentor
- Having connections with young people
- Helping out Mental Health charities
- Going to Theology talks and Leadership events.
I want to put my friends and family before my work. I want to invest in particular in those that I support, and also support me. I want to be there for important milestones and celebrations. I want to rejoice and commiserate with those I love.
I want these sorts of things to go in my diary:
- Regular time with my most closest friends
- Regular quality time with my parents and in-laws
- Time to meet new friends
- Planning time for special events and celebrations.
I am passionate about standing up for justice and I’m not afraid to speak up. However, I am also a communicator and educator, so it’s important I do this kindly, in particular with those who need education around certain issues. I want to have increasing impact and really make a difference where I am.
These sorts of things will go in my diary:
- Putting on Kickass Women events (my women’s networking group)
- Investing in equipping women with the Kickass Women Facebook group
- Attending events around equality, diversity and women’s issues, such as Leap, Stylist, Red events and Mind events
- Speaking with my coach to learn how to communicate more effectively and hone my skills.
I love learning and I want to keep putting aside time to learn new skills for my business and clients and also just widening my mind and inspiring me.
I want to put in my diary things like:
- Going to workshops to learn new things
- Going to art exhibitions
- Attending Red, Stylist, Figaro Digital and Council events to keep my learning up-to-date.
- Reading relevant books and articles
- Going on retreat each season to think how to develop Joy Factory.
I love going to new places and having adventures. Going on holiday is very important to me, for my soul, my art and deepening relationships with my family and friends.
I want to make time for:
- A hot holiday in the winter months to raise my family’s spirits
- Half-term breaks to refresh us
- A yearly weekend break with my husband
- A week in France with my Dad and Bean
- Weekends with my mum
- Trips with ECC (my rollercoaster club)
- Crossing places off my travel list, like New York, Helsinki and Sicily.
It is important to me to do my work with Joy Factory. I want to be a witness to Isaac, my son, to show a woman can carry on the work she loves and is good at, rather than waiting till nursery. I enjoy my work and it’s good for my wellbeing. And I work to be able to pay for holidays for my family to support my husbands’ small income.
That said, any work I do I have to want to do, as I’m away from my son. And also, work I enjoy with people I like is usually more profitable anyway. I go away each season to review the work I’m doing, partnerships and where I’m going.
I want to keep putting in my diary:
- Seasonal Retreats
- Priority time with key partners
- Time in the Harrow Work Hub
- Meeting with new clients and customers
- Time to review feedback from clients.
I want to find more time in my diary to make new art. I’ve realised that when I do any art, it’s on my phone, doing digital paintings. I’m usually rushing as I’m with my family! I miss time spent playing with new media and experimenting. I also want to do new exhibitions, so I can sell my work to encourage me to make new work.
I’d like these sorts of things to go in my diary:
- Sketching days
- Studio days
- Putting on or taking part in exhibitions
- Thinking about other revenue streams, like Etsy and creating prints, etc.
I love opening my home to people and I love parties. People who come to our gatherings always meet new people., laugh, eat, sing, share and feel at home.
I want to keep these sorts of things in my diary:
- Celebrating birthdays
- Having a ‘Thanks’ party in dreary, grey January
- Marking Advent with Christmas prep then celebrating all twelve days of Christmas
- Having dinner parties and playdates
- Playing board games
- Having movie nights
- Having a big do at my mum’s once a year, to give people a mini holiday and a chance to dress up!
So there we have it. My ‘Becoming’ tiles and my hopes and dreams for them. I hope this might have inspired folks reading to maybe do their own. Feel free to ask me how I’m doing!
I plan on posting on Social Media about my ‘Becoming’ list as a focus for what I use Facebook, Instagram for etc and also to create a conversation. I also have Pinterest boards I’m working on, which you’re welcome to look at – just search for ‘joyfactoryuk’ on Pinterest.